by Sarah Briggs

Let's face it - most guys have experienced orgasm. In fact, most experience it without a partner by their mid-teens. Something you might not know is that not all women experience orgasm at all, and even less during intercourse. For a variety of reasons, many women do not masturbate. The clitoris does not make its presence felt as does the penis, and upon reaching sexual maturity, the female body does not experience erections or wet dreams. A lot has been said about the female orgasm. One thing of which you can be certain is that a guy who knows a lot about getting his partners off is a guy who will have his sexual partners eagerly coming back for more.

Women need more

Unlike most men, who find themselves excited when seeing an attractive nude female body, very few women are not triggered by seeing a nude male. And seeing a close-up of genitals is very unlikely to excite any woman. They're just different that way, both genetically and culturally. No doubt that is why men spend so much time at strip clubs, where strip shows for women are more of a novelty. This is also why there are not more nude male magazines for women. Women need mental stimulation to achieve orgasm - especially their first time. Every woman is different in what exactly turns them on, but a lot of women also require a feeling of connection with their partner.

Whether or not your partner has come before or not, it is usually not as easy for women to experience an orgasm. It takes an average of twenty minutes for a woman to reach orgasm, and interruption in her mood can completely derail this process. Sure, some girls can come in a few minutes, but they are not the norm.

A lot of people ask the question "who is responsible for the woman's orgasm?" Ultimately both partners are probably responsible. Let's face it - guys aren't built the same, and if women keep them guessing about what to do, it may not get done right. On the other hand, a lot of men seem to feel that sticking their penis in their partner should be enough. The truth is that it very rarely is enough, and the men that believe this are usually guilty of willful ignorance.

Meet the clitoris

The primary trigger for most female orgasms is the clitoris, a small nub of flesh outside and just to the front of the vagina. In many intercourse positions, the clitoris is not touched in any way, making orgasm literally impossible for most women. For most women to come during intercourse, there must be some contact with the clitoris. In most cases, this can easily be achieved by the man's pubic bone. Even easier, either the man or the woman can gently masturbate the woman by lightly rapidly rubbing her clitoris only after she is already excited. The main function of foreplay is to get the partners excited and to allow the female to lubricate. Many men who rush through foreplay because they are anxious to fuck miss part of the point - it takes a woman longer to become excited. If you routinely rush your partners through foreplay, they will not be excited, will very rarely if ever have orgasms with you, and will not look forward to more sex with you with a sense of anticipation.

For women who are uncomfortable with masturbation, a vibrator can be held on the clitoris. Also a stream of water from a bathtub or hot tub can be a great way for a woman to come.

The tongues have it

Most women's favourite sexual activity is not intercourse, it is cunnilingus - pussy eating. The softer, smooth surface of the tongue is very well suited to the very sensitive clitoris. Where fingers can irritate, your tongue is a perfect tool to bring your partner to bliss and keep her there. If you want your partners to come back for more, remember to slow down the foreplay so they're ready when you are, and make sure that they are satisfied as well as you are... And your partners will come back for more!

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