By Peter James

It is said that most men think of sex more than anything else. I forget the stats, but it seems to me that the average man thinks of sex at least two times per minute. We all fantasize about sex. We think of some hot babe who has nice breasts who wants to get it on during lunch break. We can't look at a woman and not have a sexual thought about her. Well, except for the fat old women, but some men think about them too. It shouldn't be no surprise to use that women have fantasizes. I think that sometimes men get pushed away from women who are sexual, because we think of them as sluts.

We need to understand this isn't the case and we should enjoy the fact that they have fantasizes.

Women are different than men, you don't need me to tell you that. Men are more visual creatures. We get turned on by the sight of a pair of nice legs or a set of big but yet perky breasts.

Women on the other hand get aroused mentally. They need to be worked before they can get turned on. This is why women need foreplay and men could live without it.

This is why men go to strip clubs and women read romance novels. Women are in search of the mental arousal, while we are in search of a nice pair of hooters. This is why a woman loves to be talked to before she has sex. We all know this, but yet we try to avoid it.

To understand the arousal of a woman, you must understand what makes her aroused. If you don't, all you will be doing is running in circles. You will end up with an unhappy woman who fakes orgasms every time you have sex.

Here are some things that you can do to turn her on and get her fantasizes kick started.
1. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear. I learned this one off of the Brady Bunch. I was surprised that it actually worked. While you are having sex or during foreplay, whisper things in her ear. Tell her how horny she is making you or tell her how good it feels to have sex with her. This will drive her wild!

2. Spend a few extra minutes on foreplay. She will love this. Spend some extra time running your fingers through her hair or kissing her body. She will get so wet, that she will explode in no time!

3. Caress and kiss her entire body. This will make her go bizerk. Every woman loves it when a man does this.

4. Go down on her first. Most men want to get off first, but play musical chairs and have her sit on your face first. She will be shocked by it and think that you are paying special attention to her needs.

5. After a great love making experience, buy her flowers. Show her that you love her, this will earn you brownie points to get laid again sooner.

I'm sure you are wondering what these things have to do with fantasizes. It is pretty simple really. You need to make her feel comfortable so that she can trust that you won't laugh at her when she tells them. Not only this, but she needs to know that you take love making seriously.

If she knows that you are serious about love making and that you will do anything to please her, she will open like a flower. I know that it might sound bad to have her start to go goo goo over her fantasizes, but it really isn't. You may think that if you listen too much that she will only be open to hers and not yours.

The thing to keep in mind is that some of the fantasizes that you have, she will have too. Meaning, that in the long run, chances are you will get to live out some of yours as well. This is a great thing, because you both have the same secret idea that turns you on. When you live it out, it will be incredible. Both of you will be so horny that it takes all your energy not to explode right away.

The key to keeping a healthy and happy sex life is making sure that you are open. Nothing will be good if you can't talk about it. Your goal is to have the best sex possible. That is why you are in the relationship right? I mean, unless she cooks a mighty fine pork roast.

The problem in most relationships is that most people don't communicate with each other. They keep things locked inside them and don't realize that some day it will all blow up. It is like a steam engine that has no where for the steam to escape. That steam has to go some where. That some where will be the thing that causes your relationship to end.

You tell her what pisses you off and she tells you what pisses her off? Believe me, you know if you do something that makes her mad. She won't let you forget about it. Well, the same is true with sex. If you feel open enough to talk about what angers you, you should be able to talk abut what pleases you. If not, I'm afraid things don't look good for your relationship.
 

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